Traditions: Who Pays for What


While planning your wedding, the discussion will come up about who is paying for what. These days who pays for what has drastically changed and is different for each wedding. 

Rob and I, since we both hadn't lived at home with our parent's for many years, decided that it was our choice to get married and we should pay for that choice. Some couples and families however decide to either split the costs down the middle, or stick to tradition.

According to in the article The Tradition of Whose Family Pays for What, traditionally the brides family pays for a majority of the wedding costs. They pay for the wedding dress, the shoes, and bridal accessories. The engagement party, wedding consultant's fee, wedding stationary, the groom's wedding ring and gifts for the bridesmaids. The bride's family is also responsible for the photography and videography as well as the ceremony and reception costs.

The groom's family is traditionally responsible for the rehearsal dinner, the brides wedding ring, gifts for the groomsmen, the bride's bouquet along with the corsages and boutonnieres. The groom's family is also responsible for the officiant's fee, marriage license, and honeymoon expenses.

The groomsmen and bridesmaids are typically responsible for their own attire, travel expenses, the bridal shower and the bachelor and bachelorette parties.

Everyone's situation is going to be different, so no matter what the tradition, talk to both families and find out who can pay for what and come up with a plan that works best for both of you and your families.